Hi, I’m Sofia and welcome to “Beneath The Layers.” I am a personal coach specializing in codependency issues, sexual trauma, and personal development. I have a background on Behavioural Counselling, Psychology, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Reiki and Tantra.
I have been working with people with a wide range of challenges including sexual/physical trauma, co-dependency, neglect, bullying, self harm, depression, low self esteem, PTSD. I believe in supporting a healthy development in the context of a loving, safe, respectful, nurturing, accepting relationship with your own self first and then with others; using a range of methods which vary according to your specific needs. Aside from being a life coach, I am a speaker, blogger, amateur writer, meditator, lover of life, food, freedom and joy!.
Having overcome extensive trauma in my own life, I recognize the importance of providing a safe, nurturing and comfortable environment. When looking for the right coach, I know just how important it is to have a solid idea of who the person is in order to build a trusting relationship; a relationship where you can feel safe, understood and your treatment goals are being respected. I believe in assisting people gain and develop the skills to handle symptoms arising from the various challenges they may face, as well as helping them resolve the issues that continue to interfere with their ability to achieve their life goals and desires.
Let me give you a little background about me as a person and professional. I am what society calls a survivor of sexual/physical and emotional abuse. Personally I like to call myself a warrior. I have suffered and battled with severe PTSD and Dissociation. My journey is not over but I am certainly far from where I started.
Through the years I hid many of my challenges, my fears, my struggles; I felt the need to hide my traumas, my anger, my emotions in general, until one day I could hide no more.
It was in 2005 when my life started to change, it was not a smooth transition neither was it my choice to start diving into my subconscious and exploring old wounds. The universe in its infinite wisdom has a way of cleansing us, so my journey started. Looking back on it, all of it was meant to happen. Up to that point I had tried to conceal all I felt inside. I couldn’t understand myself or why I made choices which would sabotage my own efforts and which were psychologically damaging.
My path to healing was challenging; most who knew me back then could not understand my journey. I needed to break away, to explore and discover what was beneath the volcano in my soul which seemed ready to explode at any time. I chose to submerge myself in psychotherapy with one of the best in the field; an experienced therapist who understood and believed in the power of talking and retraining the mind, not numbing it. Through the years it has been an honour to have met and worked with some of the best minds in the fields of Psychology, Counselling, NLP and Tantra.
Working on myself at times was very painful, at times I gave up, yet time and time again I would go back. Something inside me, a greater power in the universe, a deep desire to fight back, to heal, kept pushing me to go back and work through it. Like never before the question “Who am I?” started to be a constant in my mind. I kept making choices which kept backfiring… but how could I have made “right” choices when I was just starting to discover who I really was?…
Little by little through self search, personal development/therapy and coaching I started to discover what it meant to be me; the real me!. With self discovery came the strength to forge my own path. The more I worked on myself, the more I knew what it was I wanted to do with my life; I wanted to help others. I wanted to make a difference in other’s lives, to bring hope where there was a feeling of darkness, to help others rediscover themselves and perhaps for the first time ever to listen to their own voice.
I came to understand the human mind and soul are very complex yet at the same time quite simple… Paradox? maybe for some, but the more we discover who we are the more we come to the understand this “paradox” is really a beautiful dance of all that makes us human and unique. Having found my calling in life I submerged myself in research and studies on all subjects which I felt offer tremendous healing to the human psyche and the soul. I submerged myself in Metaphysics, Psychology, Counselling, Neuro Linguistic Programming and Tantra. I pursued further studies on both Psychology and Tantric Counselling (mind/soul/body). As I submerged myself on obtaining my degrees and continued working with my own therapists, my soul kept growing and I started to discover beneath all the false layers, who I really was!.
I decided to take a chance and follow my heart. I now follow my passion, which is to help others see that no matter what has happened in life, you have a voice, a choice, and the experience to make a difference. Along with my schooling comes years of real life experience overcoming challenges and discovering who I was. I believe one person can make a difference in more ways than can be imagined, so long as you find it in your heart to take courage and take on the biggest journey you will ever make, the journey within yourself.
I am here to remind all of you who are hurting and who feel lost “you are not alone”. Perhaps you suffer silently, perhaps you feel you don’t have a voice, or you see yourself as damaged, let me remind you that the power to your healing is in you, you are worth so much, you CAN and HAVE the right to shine, without fears and apologies for being the authentic you.
Gold is refined by fire, diamonds by pressure, soil becomes fertile and plants grow more beautiful after they have had manure spread on them; just like these things, you are precious and you deserve to live a fulfilling life. You have the power to recreate your world.
Life is a journey, this journey never ends. It is my hope to guide you into rediscovering who you are; whether through one on one in person or skype coaching or through the material I write. If my experiences, my knowledge can help you in any way to increase your self love, then my wish has been granted.
I consider it a privilege to do this work and I look forward to hearing from you!…
DISCOVER YOURSELF…EMBRACE YOURSELF…BE YOURSELF…LIVE AGAIN…